My wife thinks we're piecing (2)

[EDF]

Thanks for the input Sandi! FYI we have remained living together, and both still in the MBR.

After three really good weeks, the past couple days she has seemed a bit more distant/preoccupied, and a bit snippier, but I'm not freaking out yet... just trying to remain a lighthouse.

Regarding this weekend, she has decided to not go to the wedding shower, but has said she may be visiting friends while I'm out of town for my event. Would it be reasonable transparency to ask her to call to check in with me and send me selfies of her with her friends, or would that be smothering/controlling? Would it be inappropriate for me to ask her to come to my event instead and avoid any solo stuff for the moment?

I don't want to come across as overly needy/whiny/controlling, but given her slight mood change and the pending solo weekend time... if she was going to relapse and seek out OM, it would be a great opportunity for it.