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Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er Ginger1 #2695902 08/10/16 12:14 PM
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Surfer Member S Joined: Jun 2016 Posts: 1,273	DonH I read everything you Maybell said in detail, on my way to a meeting I drafted my response. I have only commented below on points I can add to as Maybell is far more knowledgable and experienced at this - as you are - and in fairness, she has totally nailed many of these points. LOWERING STANDARDS: "we both had to change what we thought was important to us in order to find a person who feels really right." Perhaps it's about "changing what we 'thought' was important to what 'actually' was important". Maybell makes a great point with height. Non-negotiable or not, some things are aesthetic, that's not vain or shallow - you have to be attracted. However height might be something that is it is not a deal breaker depending on who you are. GHOSTING: Agreed. If they ghost, they are flakey. Do you want flakey? No. If they change their minds fine they can pursue, you don't. Don't let them cross your mind. Drop the Rope (DTR). SON IS HER LIFE: She has a Son who is her life. That's good for both of them. But you don't really want that. Who says she might not get in touch. Could still catch up for dinner as friends. No need to shut her out. Seems like she's just not the one for you right now. WHAT YOU WANT ETC It's all there. Why not add those points to your goals? I want to find someone who [honesty, follow through....how will she feel etc] Could add - I don't want flakey etc. M46/W40/D8/S6/T20/M12/Separated 6/2016,W takes kids Issues2009 Wpartying w/g.f's2013on EA2013PAdeniedWleavesMBR ImeetAP/EAhalts VariousBDDates MFCourse WSpew EAresumes I halt Wrages DBIng4/2016

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10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	07/31/16 04:04 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	SunnyB	08/01/16 10:50 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	BeginningAgain	08/01/16 11:06 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	08/01/16 01:06 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Sotto	08/01/16 01:21 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/01/16 03:20 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Rick1963	08/01/16 05:03 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/01/16 07:04 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Rick1963	08/02/16 04:36 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	08/02/16 06:09 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/02/16 05:43 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	kml	08/02/16 08:01 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	kml	08/02/16 08:02 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/02/16 08:41 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Zues126	08/02/16 08:54 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	kml	08/02/16 08:59 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/02/16 09:41 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/04/16 09:39 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	08/04/16 02:16 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	kml	08/05/16 11:28 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/05/16 02:30 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Maybell	08/06/16 08:10 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/06/16 02:42 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	08/06/16 06:35 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/08/16 08:52 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	08/08/16 09:55 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Maybell	08/08/16 11:43 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Surfer	08/09/16 01:17 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/09/16 07:40 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Maybell	08/09/16 08:11 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Surfer	08/10/16 12:39 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	08/10/16 05:04 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Surfer	08/10/16 12:14 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	kml	08/10/16 09:23 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/11/16 03:16 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/11/16 04:07 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Maybell	08/12/16 03:44 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	08/12/16 04:05 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/13/16 03:32 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Sotto	08/13/16 11:48 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Maybell	08/14/16 10:47 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Zues126	08/14/16 11:38 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	kml	08/14/16 05:05 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Painter	08/15/16 06:03 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	08/15/16 06:20 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Georgiabelle	08/15/16 07:44 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	SunnyB	08/15/16 08:28 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Surfer	08/15/16 03:41 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/16/16 02:15 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Underdog	08/16/16 02:53 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	08/17/16 06:25 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/19/16 09:29 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Georgiabelle	08/19/16 11:41 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Georgiabelle	08/19/16 11:43 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/19/16 08:09 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Maybell	08/20/16 05:28 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Georgiabelle	08/20/16 03:02 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Georgiabelle	08/20/16 03:28 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/20/16 04:29 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Georgiabelle	08/20/16 04:59 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Underdog	08/20/16 06:29 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Surfer	08/27/16 02:08 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Cadet	09/07/16 06:23 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/03/16 06:27 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Maybell	10/03/16 07:05 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/03/16 07:36 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	10/04/16 05:17 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Rick1963	10/04/16 06:39 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	10/04/16 06:46 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Rick1963	10/04/16 07:22 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/04/16 09:05 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	trumpet	10/04/16 10:03 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/04/16 05:08 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/05/16 05:49 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/05/16 08:00 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/05/16 05:26 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	10/12/16 04:16 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/12/16 05:32 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	10/12/16 05:36 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/12/16 05:40 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/12/16 06:14 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/12/16 06:33 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	10/12/16 11:58 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/12/16 02:34 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	10/13/16 04:29 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	10/13/16 05:19 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/13/16 07:08 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/13/16 05:38 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	10/14/16 06:03 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	10/14/16 06:05 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/14/16 06:34 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	10/14/16 11:42 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	10/14/16 12:25 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/14/16 01:32 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	10/14/16 04:53 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/14/16 07:01 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Vanilla	10/14/16 07:25 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/15/16 05:31 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Ginger1	10/15/16 08:25 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	job	10/16/16 05:47 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	10/16/16 11:40 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	doodler	10/14/16 06:23 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	Georgiabelle	08/15/16 08:03 AM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	kml	08/02/16 02:48 PM
Re: 10 Years Later - From a DB'er	DonH	08/02/16 05:26 PM

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