Hi Gump, sounds like your GAL activities are working for you!

When you say hell will break lose when she realises the practical consequences of D, I would have thought that as she wants D she would be aware of that by now? Do in think she is just looking at the legal/paperwork side and not what this will actually mean to you as people/couple/family?

Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')