Well, there's lots of good stuff there! Nice job letting go of expectations and it's great to see things heading in this direction.
It was interesting to read about the friend and her "grass is greener" plunge. I know a woman who was the OW to a married man who cheated on his wife and walked out on his kids. They ended up marrying (guy and OW) and I remember thinking: why would you marry a guy who is cheating on his wife with you AND walked out on his kids (he financially abandoned them, too!). And she was a seemingly 'normal' woman in the prime of her life!
Well, a few years into their marriage he was off cheating again. They're still 'married' but he lives elsewhere with who knows who. What's interesting is that she is so negative about everything. When I asked how she was doing she complained and said "I never had any choices in my life." Of course, this is ridiculous as all you have in life are choices. You hate to espouse the fire and brimstone stuff, but, in all honesty, her life as OW turned out a complete and utter mess. Hmm.
Anyway, I love seeing your optimism and I have learned so much from you, your journey and your posts.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
