Ironically, almost immediately after posting that there was no update W texted me to ask me about something that I know she could figure out on her own if she gave it even a little bit of effort. I responded after a while to give her the simple answer to the question, she continued to text me and I just didn't respond.
3rd day in a row she has contacted me after 3 weeks of not speaking... I would say that being dark worked. I'm still not initiating contact and I only respond to her when absolutely necessary and am very careful to not seem over eager or give too many details.
I know it's okay to talk to her. If I couldn't I would probably drive myself crazy with all the things floating around my head. She tells me like it is and I appreciate that about her.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16