Detaching.....nearly there..

[Surfer]

Cherry - thanks for this. Yes, its tricky. I kind of want to focus on the finances, as that funds her WW lifestyle, but I almost cant do much unless I go for the D, which I don't want but is she coming back...., not unless she changes. I need to give it some time, watch and see what happens I think. Just not let her eat cake and no contact (or only about kids). No favours etc. I have decided not to pick them up from the airport when they get back. She can have that lonely journey back alone.

Sandi - always left open mouthed when I read your posts. Absolutely spot on. I will read and re-read them. Thank you. I think the shock of her saying to her mum "its like he doesn't trust me any more", and her responding "I can understand why he feels like that" - absolutely rocked her. So perhaps her loss might well be some of that but unfortunately, blood is thicker than water and regardless of the close bond I had with MIL, FIL, Family, they are all cutting ties and my W has forced those cuts. This protects her from those shocks I feel.

I think I just have to really detach, GAL and face her with a b@lls on approach to that nosey neighbour without coming across as pi55y etc. Just kind of oh "really?...interesting?". Otherwise no contact....