Newly Separated

[RSG]

What I found is this. Your family and friends love you. They just want to support you and they want you to be happy. I think - and this is just my experience - after a while they decide that the marriage is over, and in order for you to be happy they want you to move on. At which point, they switch from supporting your DB efforts to get your ex back - to actively hating your ex and wanting you to accept the D and move on with your life as quickly as possible, as this is the quickest path for you to be happy again, even though it [censored].

So don't be mad at your family, they just love you and want you to be happy. The problem is - it's not their marriage that's falling apart, it's not their family that is being broken, or their kids that are being hurt. Right now I have to DB almost in secret, my family will not support it and they just want me to accept it and move on. This is common, noone will understand it. But everyone on here is going through the same thing and we support your courage to fight for your marriage. It [censored] but that's probably your situation.

I've stopped really talking to my folks about what I'm doing, but I make sure that they know I'm FINE. They're proud of the Daddy I'm becoming. They're wary of WW because they worry about S and that's fine. But I reassure them that I know the woman, and that I'm not begging her I'm waiting for change. They haven't said, but I bet they would prefer if I just D but they support me.

My best friend? He wants me to D and hates her. I understand that. But he's like a brother to me. He saw me completely break down in front of him, and knows my heart was broken. He supports me too though.

Those are the only people I've spoken to candidly.

I agree with you QT. Everyone is showing you love, they hurt watching you hurt. But you believe it's worth it. Forgive your support network. They do love you!!