wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[Raul]

@Sandi2,
I read you thread on the WW. It was right on and clearly the best advice on WW on the internet...trust me, I have searched high and low for months and you are the best at what you say.

Yes, my sister in laws whom love me like their brother, not only always defended me, they made sure she was put in her place. Unfortunately, I thought that by having her sisters speak out for me, that WW would see how much I mean to her family. Now that she refuses to speak to her sisters, I know I was so WRONG. I took cue from her because she always have said that her family's opinion of her boyfriend (then) meant the world to her. I just got to comfortable. Not only that, when I did stood up to WW, she made me sleep in the sofa and did not talk to me for weeks...seriously. I think it was 2 weeks the most we went without talking.

Sandi2, I have put an end to her coming over in the morning. My sister has taught me how to brush my daughters' hair. I went to store and bought many hair supplies for girls. I have been brushing my girls hair for 4 days now. I'm getting good.

About GAL, I have started taking my daughters' to church. This Sunday was my first time in years. We enjoyed it. I also, arranged for a babysitter a few nights so I can go get a drink with a group of friends which have been very rewarding. I have made friends with 4 new people (all divorced women). Not only do I receive support, we relate and go on with just friendship- not dating. I still wear my ring- not ready.

Sandi2, what I am planning to do is change my cell number and not give it to WW and some people whom are now talking to her. I am planning to set up an internet home phone, so she can call my daughters at home or a leave messages. And she has my work phone number if she needs to reach me during work hours. She only has our daughters from 2pm to 5pm after school- I pick them up at 5:15pm. And the last two weeks, she has been saying she has no days off and has been "working" long hours so she can't have our daughters spend the night. I know "working" means spending time with OM. I already proved it to myself twice. My 9 years also seems to catch on too. Yesterday she told me that she will be spending the night with mommy today. After picking up my daughters, WW text that she was told she has to go to work. So she text, tell our daughter I have to work. I told my daughter and she said, mommy is a liar. I saw her work schedule. She going to see the OM. I was somewhat bothered by WW text, I just hugged my daughter and told her mommy loves you.

Besides, she got mad at me a few weeks ago because I forgot my phone at home. She was calling it. Our girls were at school. Eventually she called me at work just to yell at me that when she calls, I pick up the phone. I honestly don't remember why she was calling me in the first place.

Then, she also got mad because she was texting me and it the messages were not going through. My carrier had an outage for a few hours. So when she called, she said how dare I block her calls.

I know I am taking a big risk here. My plan is to make her think I disconnected my cellphone and got a house phone instead. What she doesn't know is that the internet phone plan I will have has a mobile app where the message or call can be forwarded to my cellphone. She is not that tech savy so she will think she is calling my house phone. I don't want to feel pressure to call her back when she text to have the girls call her just to say hello. I hate it because she doesn't make an effort to actually see our daughters and by simply texting me to have them call her, irritates me. Because she asks what are we doing. So now, I will tell her, call my house phone, leave a message and they will call you back when I get home. This will also give me peace and mind because I will not call or text her because I don't want her to have my new number.

When she cheated on me in 2005 and left, after a few pleads and pursuing, I changed my number. I no longer called her and I no longer looked at phone wishing she would call me. She eventually had to go to my work to talk to me after a few months.