Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

[bigybiz]

DonH sorry for the delayed response. I'm on vacay. My boys and I are in the Dominican Republic for a week. I just fell out of a palm tree so my ankle is the size of orange. Let's hope the swelling drops fast.

Yes, My W has worked on the "soft" side of IT. She has been the human contact between the Techies and the "business". Well two years ago she got involved with the Cyber Security crowd - same idea. She is not technical - but is attracted to that crowd. Well it has become her obsession. She did get her dream job now by chasing this community.

She ignores her kids, dumped me (I played my part too). She the Cyber security calls them her family and a few people have done everything they can to help encourage her to leave me, etc - paying for her to go to conferences even though they knew it would cause friction at home, etc.

As I said, I'm building my own path right now (or trying). I'm guessing the old adage - be careful what you wish for you just might get it applies. She has her precious community and her basement apt.

Our eldest thinks we are both nuts (me a little less) and our boys don't ask about her, she sends the odd emails and see's the boys on her days. But, she will happily dump her visit to do something more interesting.

Phew, there it is in a nutshell.

I'll try and catch up on your thread a little later.