My wife walked out 4

[RSG]

WOW. Just saw her for about 15 minutes, went through quite a bit. Most was about S. Forms at school I didn't know about, like book sales, their yearly activity schedule, etc. Why is he so snotty? (I think it's because of the fan on at bedtime, but I'm not sure so I didn't speculate)

She is still expecting a check, but I looked and it still hasn't come. She did get a notice about her mail changing, I didn't look, gave it to her and she put it away pretty quickly. I gave her the $25 for the teacher's giftcard. All that is pretty blah.

Her: Anything else we need to talk about?
Me: No? About what?
Her: About us?
Me: No, I don't think so. I don't really think about it too much.
Her: OK.
(I was looking her eye to eye a few feet away)
She wants to say a few more things about S, and I say we should just go outside as the dog is in his crate barking loudly. (This may not be a 180, but possibly a 90. I would usually yell at him to shut up and she'd make a comment.) We talk a little more about S, then it turns.

Her: How are your parents?
Me: They're doing well.
Her: Do they hate me?
Me: I don't really talk about it much.
Her: Can I have S for his birthday? It falls on a Sat this year.
Me: Yeah, that's ok. Saturday is your day anyway.
Her: Are you doing anything for his birthday?
Me: Probably take him to my folks Sunday.
Her: He should have fun. OK, I really have to go. Take care of my baby.
Me: OK I will. Have a good night.
Her: You too






Wow. I wasn't perfect, but I am proud of a few things. Kept my distance and cool. Looked her in the eyes whenever she spoke, especially about the more serious stuff. Didn't ask about her new address. Finally noticed her hair is actually more like a big bowl of sand on her head, but said nothing. Bent down to pick something up, and noticed yet another tattoo this one on her other foot. Said nothing. When she wanted a R talk, I had nothing to say. Maybe not the best wording from me, but if she wanted to instigate divorce she would have said something. I'm not ready to discuss anyway, and this was a HORRIBLE setting. Dog barking, I'm a little stressed from a late "meeting" at work in which we missed a deadline but thankfully I was the only one who kept up with it! (I'm in charge of the docket at a law firm, and already had my boss come down on me a few weeks ago so I was a little stressed!) W was needing to go quickly, as traffic [censored] and it was near 6.

I think I made myself a little mysterious. She didn't really learn anything about me, other than I seem to be in good spirits and I'm not dwelling on any loss. Again, as mentioned above, if she wanted a D she would've said so. My mind wandered about the change of address, but logic won out. She's not coming home anytime soon, she has to live somewhere. I need to work on a better response to "Do we have anything to talk about between us" though. I'm not thinking about it is OK (not great), but if I'm going to be seeing her drop off S this much it'll be get really stupid. "I'm not really ready to discuss" or "I don't think this is the right time to talk about anything" (because of the setting, time frame, etc) seem better.

Whew. Seeing her brought up feelings, but I'm not sad and I don't miss her. I think she has some feelings too, but more than anything really wants me to start pursuit. Although she's being more friendly and respectful towards me, I'm waiting for her to say something before I give out one morsel of info about how I feel. She's made changes, but they're all silly and superficial. What an afternoon lol