I agree with everything you said except the kids being resilient. The kids might look resilient now but they will be totally messed up when they become adults and they have their own relationship. Look at my wife. She is doing what she is doing because her mom got divorced when she was 7. She is the result of her traumatic childhood. I have seen kids with divorced parents becoming criminals, prostitutes, hanging themselves and having multiple kids with multiple women and running away. Divorce and separation are huge problems, don't kid yourself, and they are going to scar the kids for life.
Eeek. I know you are hurting, but this is really just as true for kids who grow up in intact homes. Especially intact homes. Or are living with parents who are miserable.
My parents divorced. I'm pretty successful. I'm not a prostitute or a criminal. I'm a nurse. I might be divorced, but that not because my parents were .
My daughter is a beautiful loved little girl. she's going to be an FBI interrogator one day:)
Is it best for a child to be in a home with 2 parents who love each other? Sure, absolutely? Will not being in a home with both of their parents at the same time be their demise and their future is doomed?
Absolutely not.
It doesn't have to be that way. Like better man said. Be their rock and you won't really have to worry anymore than the average person raising kids
