I agree with everything you said except the kids being resilient. The kids might look resilient now but they will be totally messed up when they become adults and they have their own relationship. Look at my wife. She is doing what she is doing because her mom got divorced when she was 7. She is the result of her traumatic childhood. I have seen kids with divorced parents becoming criminals, prostitutes, hanging themselves and having multiple kids with multiple women and running away. Divorce and separation are huge problems, don't kid yourself, and they are going to scar the kids for life.
