Episode 3 - The Divorce Awakens

[betterman77]

Q,
I don't post often but I've been following along with you because our situations are eerily similar. I did feel the need to respond because I've experienced exactly what you are going through.

My kids: my kids love me, it doesn't seem to affect them very much right now, but I'm worried about how this situation will affect them in the future. Right now I lean on my kids for love, although they are a reminder to me of what is lost, and being around them is always tinged with sadness.

My daughter and son were a year younger then yours when my situation started and at the time I felt the exact same way as you do now. I too leaned on them for love and they gave me exactly what I needed to build myself back up. You'll learn that they are more resilient than you think and as long as you are their rock that they will be ok. Mine are both thriving in everything they do and I couldn't be happier and more proud of them.

Society: over %50 of married couples divorce, you're nothing special, get over it. (Great. This is the worst pain imaginable that anyone should have to go through. I think it's worse for me than my dad's death. And society is minimizing my pain? I can't turn off my emotions, as much as I'd like to.)

You may think that way now but after the smoke clears and the dust settles on your situation you'll think differently. I'm not saying this to minimize the pain you're feeling for either, but my mom's been gone 8 years and I still miss her everyday, my XW and our relationship eh, not so much. What I'm getting at is that YOU will be OK regardless of the outcome with your W.

You're on the right path, just keep walking it.