Maybs - Pt2

[Buxom]

Hi maybs. After reading here I have a couple of things. When my WH made all sorts of noise about D while we were separated 18 months ago, he said and did all sorts of things to hurt me and when I did not budge it said to him that I was not going to follow him down the D path. It was pure temp checking and he settled down after some pretty heavy testing to which I severed communications for a few weeks until rehab. Then I was very supportive. I wouldn't add fuel to her fire by being defensive or reactive. ( I'm just learning this again from the Solo Partner book.
The other thing is my DB coach IS encouraging friendship first. Rebuilding from the original foundation. We can't go from marriage to divorce posturing to happy happy again. In the long run if it goes south then decide if you want to be friends or not. I wouldn't want to close the doors so easily yet I know the temptation is there since it hurts so much. Take care. Colleen