This morning I woke up and got ready to go on my week long trip. I know I shouldn't be looking for every sign, but after I took my shower and getting ready, I noticed my wife taking her clothes off and jumping in the shower. Two months ago my wife would not of done this and felt uncomfortable to change in front of me. Nothing major her back was to me and she jumped into the shower. I of course got out of the bathroom and closed the door because that was my 180, what I wanted was to just linger and make an excuse to take a peak Also, that morning, W told me that she may have to work in Oct for Saturday early mornings because of the busy time for her job, this is first time she described a future schedule with me that would involve my availability. This would be difficult to manage if we were S in different locations. Lastly, when I was leaving she asked why car was still in garage and I told her I was a planning to Uber to airport. She asked why did I not ask her, I told her I did not what to inconvenience her (another 180). I then told her I'll wait downstairs for the Uber. My typical reaction would be to want a hug (her initiation) and wish her a good week. My 180 was just to leave. Unfortunately, I had to make a quick run upstairs to get my cash and she said bye and I did the same.
I'm doing what I need to do in terms of DB/DR, but I'm not sure any of it actually resonates with W. However, the act of detachment while extremely difficult is something I need to do as it will save me if things go bad. Going to be away for a week and not planning to initiate any contact, but will respond if she does. I hope with having the kids all week and me not being there this may cause some sort of subconscious missed feeling for me or for the family unit.
Also, that morning, W told me that she may have to work in Oct for Saturday early mornings because of the busy time for her job, this is first time she described a future schedule with me that would involve my availability. This would be difficult to manage if we were S in different locations. Lastly, when I was leaving she asked why car was still in garage and I told her I was a planning to Uber to airport. She asked why did I not ask her, I told her I did not what to inconvenience her (another 180). I then told her I'll wait downstairs for the Uber. My typical reaction would be to want a hug (her initiation) and wish her a good week. My 180 was just to leave. Unfortunately, I had to make a quick run upstairs to get my cash and she said bye and I did the same.