I've been very tempted to confront OM in my sitch. One of the things that ultimately dissuaded me was the realization that poking him might just make him go after my W even more just to screw with me.

We already know they are selfish arseholes willing to set aside their morals/ethics... while we don't need to be meek mouses and fear them, going out of our way to agitate someone already unstable probably is not in our best interests.


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11