Liars lie (and hide contact and meet up for secret lunches). She needs to show her commitment to you with actions. Beware when words and actions don't line up.
Remember, you are the prize. You shouldn't have to fight for someone to recognize your value or commit to you.
Annab, so nice to hear from you! You're right. Liars lie. It becomes a way of life, and it's easier to lie than to face the wrath of a woman scorned! W says she wants to be with me, and she says she deleted the email from ow and didn't respond. I suppose ow isn't my problem, but I think she's part of it.
How do you get an ow to leave your spouse alone? I know, I know, it's not my job. But as the woman whose life she chose to mess with, I feel like I get to say something. I run into her now and then here at work, and I want to take her aside and say this: ow, do you have a moment? Good, because I just wanted to tell you to leave us alone. When you decided to try out a new sexual orientation just for kicks, and insert yourself in the middle of our relationship, you became the ow, the homewrecker, and with that you lost the privilege of being friends with my W. As far as I'm concerned, you are morally bankrupt and ethically void. You showed no concern whatsoever for me, and no respect for my relationship with W. That you think you can still be friends with her after an A only reinforces the fact that you have no regard for our R, and no decency whatsoever. Furthermore, your inability to keep confidential private conversations and details about employees' dismissal makes you unfit to be head of HR. So stay away from me. Stay away from W. And don't ever contact either one of us again(and here's what I really want to say but I won't) or I will let [her boss] know that she is taking a risk and putting [our place of employment] at risk by promoting you to lead HR. And finally, (in my dreams I say this) you can take your feminist retirement home in Paris (the one she wrote to W about) and shove it. Good, I feel better already.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
