Keeps getting worse, 180 not working

[Buxom]

Question/clarification... so he's in MLC and doing ea mostly by phone. WH rollercoastering, doing some touch and go, starting to do some reconnect with me (starting convo, sharing some personal feelings and insights, etc), then withdraws. I'm doing gal, being very consistent, upbeat, I don't text until he does and I'm mostly not responding immediately, still doing DB coach homework of friending and keeping it might, I end calls and convo, detaching, and many of the applicable 180. If we/i continue this way, is it just a holding pattern? Waiting for him to change or pull his head out of his a$$? Going on with my life yes but is this the thing, watch and wait when it comes to him? I get I only have my life and some influence over him. There cannot be a healthy R without two healthy or recovering people. So we don't rock the boat, meaning do no more harm? Do I live as if the miracle is happening and and we are becoming a unified couple again? I'm just confused. The lighthouse analogy would seem to be watch and wait but is there more? Thanks everyone!!

Journaling...
Woke a bit more relaxed today. That is until I hear WH in the other room dictating very quietly into his phone. I could only catch the odd word, regardless I ended up feeling anxious and wondering about who he was texting and what was the message. Not good detaching. Was it a trigger?
He later came to my room and started to chat and tell me a bit about his day.