Buxom -- I know that pattern well. I've gotten to where I expect the pullback, wait for it, and then acknowledge it (silently -- definitely not to WW!) when it shows up. It seems to help me, for whatever reason. Over time, I'm maybe seeing some lessening of the force of the pullback when it comes. Or maybe not -- too hard to be a mindreader or omniscient. Hang in there!
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)