Albac broken but pushing forward

[albac]

Sandi,

I am by no stretch of the imagination an expert in DB. I have failed far more then I have succeeded with most of this. All I know is that as each day goes past I am getting less affected by my W and doing more for myself.

It may not even be classed as a boundary but I wanted to tell her that we can't be spending time as a family while she is dating other people because it will confuse our D. I don't want pity and I didn't want to drag it out I just need time away from her as much for my sanity as for her need to feel loss.

But I have since thought that maybe just sticking to NC as hard as I can she will come to me and want to talk which would be far more important then me laying down a rule that could get any number of different reactions.

She asked me over for dinner tonight when I picked my D up yesterday I said no but thank you. Then tonight when I dropped D off I tried to get do it polite but as fast as I could. W said "arnt you staying for dinner" like she totally ignored what I said yesterday. I again said no thank you and got out of there. She has sent one text since I dropped D off and it was just a asking what time D woke up from afternoon nap. Not important at all and she doesn't normally ask I think it was just another attempt to get contact I just sent back the time with nothing else.

Time will tell how this goes as I have absoloutely no need to speak to W for at least 4 days. Will take it one day at a time and see what happens.