Your answer was perfect. You clearly stated that you won't be friend zoned and that she needs to dump the other man in order to regain respect from the girls and from you. You are not letting her eat cake. I believe that she will just do that at some point. She will dump the other man and she will apologize for everything she did. She will also try to contact the girls at that point. I think your situation will improve a lot at some point.
