NYGal: Together Again and Happy!

[EDF]

It's perplexing to me that your W is carrying on these conversations/cover-ups while still communicating over something you have access to!

I think I'd chalk that up to at least some degree of lingering fog. I know it [censored], but I guess I would take it as a positive that she is not using some other form of communication, and that she came clean to you about the meeting. It doesn't excuse what she did, but I think if you still want to see if things can work you want to try to avoid the instinctive rage reaction when she chooses to be honest. Maybe tell her you are very upset and need time to think about this before you respond. You want to discourage the relapses, sure, but you don't want to inadvertently discourage her being honest with you (even if it is after the event, it's better than continuing to conceal).

Was this a work or private email - if it's private email would your W be willing to set OW as a blocked sender so she literally does not get those emails?