NYGal, so sorry to hear that OW won't leave W alone!
You said before that you could out OW's antics at the U but it could have negative consequences for you?
I wonder, have you and W ever talked about the chemical effect it has on the body and brain to have an A? I guess I mean to ask, does W know what she's fighting? Are the two of you seeing an MC? Are you seeing an IC?
I know it's easy to blame OW (I do it myself) but the real issue is one of trust with W...
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17