New and going through a Hybrid Seperation

[ForGump]

SmythyC -- you, Natus and cbtdad all appear to support snooping. But I'd like to ask you, what difference would that make? Consider the possibilities:

a) Your W is having a physical affair.
b) Your W is having an emotional affair.
c) Your W is fantasizing about a satisfying affair or a dating life.

How is her heart & mind different with regards to you as a husband? What would you do differently?

Not being argumentative. Just trying to think things through myself.