Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

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JRuss -- I appreciate all your posts. At the very least it takes my mind off my own troubles!

You might be right that it's all a part of a Long Con for your W. Maybe she's one cold calculating witch, but somehow I doubt that. I would guess the picture is more like ... you know those color blindness test images ... each colored blot is a solid color, but you look at the whole image and it's a number. Well, our wives see a D, we see an M. Or, it's like those vase-vs-face pictures (Google "Figure–ground (perception)" for an example). At any given moment, a brain can only see the outline of a vase or the outline of two faces, but the brain cannot see both simultaneously.

So, when she's just had a good weekend with you and kisses you, she sees an M. When she's looking at the classifieds for an apartment for herself, she's seeing a D. She cannot see both at once.

(Cannot focus on work right now, so I blather away here.)