JRuss - I personally get a lot of comfort from friends and family but I also recognize that they are as ForGump so well put it, echo chambers, fire setters and wet noodles. It helps me be stronger knowing that people I care about care for me but other than my one SIL who has counseled me to be very patient I ignore their advice.
I also worry about the fire-setters in the crowd and have deliberately excluded them as well as requesting that everyone understand that I want WW to come back and that they will need to accept her too if that happens. One of the people who has been a big help is a friend who doesn't know W went through a very mess D making every mistake in the book. He's hauled me back from the brink more than once before I made a stupid mistake. I had reached out to him fairly early on to get advice on how to survive the D that I thought was imminent.
So my advice is to keep the group small and meaningful otherwise you may start something you can't control and to remember that (generally speaking) that they have even less clue about what they are talking about than you do.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
