My wife walked out 4

[RSG]

Glad you had a good day. I did too, although S had a hard time getting to bed and since I was tired, the room was a little warm, and starving it stressed me out. He then woke up really early this AM to go #2. SLEEPY!!

Well, lots of texts this AM. She's bringing S home from school around 5. Was going to do it at a CVS nearby because I'm not comfortable w/her in the house. 2nd time she's mentioned how I feel about that, but I said it's probably best for both S and I if you just drop him at home. I also told her I wasn't comfortable because she had previously gone through cabinets, drawers, etc looking for stuff. She said fine, and wasn't happy about it.

I didn't respond to her texts right away, and she said "please respond" "everything ok?" "are you getting this?" "I don't understand why you're acting this way, I'm trying to get (be?) civil but you've been difficult to deal with"
I was working, using the bathroom. She gave me like 5 minutes to respond lol.

I have a feeling there may be an argument this afternoon. I think I'm seeing a confused and scared woman who knows she's losing control, and may even think she's losing ME. She's been getting angrier, while I have tried my best to keep cool. I have taken what cbtdad said to heart. Anger is GOOD, it means they care! It also helps me to keep calm, knowing MY anger would show that I'm still clinging or begging like I was months ago.

She continues to get on her high horse saying how nice/civil/accommodating she's being. I hate that, and find it very ballsy, but have stopped reacting to it.

I didn't think it would be this hard to gain respect back, but I guess being a doormat for 5 or so months is hard to come back from quickly. The more I stand up for myself, enforce boundaries, keep my composure and act "as if" the more respect I'll gain. I'm very proud of how I've calmed down and stopped acting in anger, but I know this woman. She is VERY strong willed and HATES losing control. This is actually one reason she's such a good preschool teacher lol.

I'll update later tonight with what happens. I doubt it'll be a clean/boring dropoff though....