Sorry you find yourself here. It's a really tough situation. And he is cake eating all over the show.
I would suggest maybe not initating family time. He gave up that privilege when he chose to have an affair. And I know that all too painful feeling when they are checking their phone constantly, the feeling you want to yank the damn phone out of their hands and beat them with it.
I'm not saying deny him seeing the kids. If he offers to do something with the family, maybe then you could go along if you felt like it. But no to initating. These first few l weeks are tough. And it sounds like he is in great conflict. Get concentrating on you.


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