Focus on the life you want. In our situations it is sometimes hard to determine what we want in the big picture. Some people have gone so long without asking themselves what they want that it us difficult to do so now.

What can you do today to feel better? Phone a friend? Take a walk, do sport? Meet someone?Eat a favourite meal/dessert?

It is OK to mourn the loss you feel, but don't dwell on that loss. Look up cbt for how to change your focus.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together