Thanks all for your responses. It helps. And even those that don't respond -- just reading the forum helps me. I feel a camaraderie with other human beings going through similar struggles. I knew 50% of all marriages end in a divorce. Didn't realize a small fraction of us end up in this forum.

I had an invite to get out of the house, so I did w/ my S and spent a good chunk of the afternoon outdoors. That helped ease the pain, and I started to think about not wanting to be seen as anything less than a H by my W -- don't want to be some castrated best friend -- and I started to feel like what she's doing is really immature and adolescent, which made me feel like I deserve better. Those thoughts gave me just enough courage that when I got home I put up a good front, did not act pitifully hurt.

Which I am. The heart is a monster.


Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final