WHs do come back--Piecing--acceptance & time

[PsySara]

Hi Blu,
I've been reading your postings since I started reading here. May I ask some questions? When you trigger, do you go to your H and tell him about it? WH told me he wanted to be there for me when I trigger but most of the time he can't handle it, especially if I cry. Instead of listening he gets defensive and last time told me I need to see a therapist as he cannot be mine. (I work long hours as I am a physician so finding time to go to therapy is basically impossible right now) Should I expect him to be able to see my pain? The other day was particularly bad as he started telling me how OW was a better match for him because she never complained, was always cheerful, etc., She also was a 21 year old with no responsibilities except herself and they only had a 7 week relationship in total. So yeah, they never argued, go figure.