New here and separated

[Coly23]

Oh my gosh, thank you RSG, AndrewP and Bluewave, you are all giving me sonething to think about!

In my heart I know family day is letting him have his cake and I did try this weekend when H asked to see me and D together by saying I was busy. That's the first time I have done that and I had real mixed emotions as you can see from my previous posts.

Bluewave, if he is having some sort of affair I think it will only come out a few months down the line and I think it will be an EA, definitely night PA at the moment. Although that doesn't make it any better. H is a very controlled sort of person so everything will have been planned if this is the case. I have asked him quite a few times if he is having an affair and the last time I said to him to just say yes or no. If it is 'yes' then I can deal with it. If it is 'no' then I won't ask again. He came back with: "it's no and you just need to give me some space!" None of his friends think he is having an affair as he is just too lazy!

It was me who suggested that for now we do family evening until we are comfortable with each other again so I am not sure if this is what he is doing. It's my fault really, I seem to want to plan everything and then go back on it so he probably sees me as being very inconsistent!!

Myself and D are going on holiday in a week so I think I will knock family night in the head when I get back and let them both sort out seeing each other. It is difficult as D has been let down so badly by her birth father as he hasn't seen her since she was seven so I am always trying to make sure her relationship with H doesn't go the same way.

Thank you all for talking me down from the ceiling!