(((SH))) you are taking the first step in realizing that it is easier to take care of others than yourself. Remind me, have you read about Nice Guys? You strike me as having a lot of those characteristics! As you know my H is a recovering Nice Guy and it is very hard, soul-searching, work. As you say, looking inside is painful and scary. And your confidence is more in the dumps because of W walking out.

I love seeing the R you have with your Ds. My H is a wonderful, devoted dad too. But he would put them before himself and over time he felt suffocated or empty. I also don't want to see you hide behind them. Is it possible you could be doing this? It's easier (less painful) to focus on kids and not the self. I think it would actually be great for your Ds to see you take a step back from them and have more alone time and your own activities.

Can you make this happen?

-Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela