albac -- I think you realize that for most of us, we are here writing in this forum, giving thoughts & advice to others because it helps exorcise our own demons. And of course get advice and encouragement from others.
So you do what you feel is right for you... I have no freaking idea who you are in real life but I hope your suffering ends soon and you get to a better place.
I just gotta keep repeating to myself the idea that however much it hurts -- the D and all the changes -- I don't want to be stuck in a place where my W doesn't see me as H material.
The one thing that I cannot shake off is this incredible awful feeling I have for my kids.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final