wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[RSG]

Please. Listen to Sandi and read her threads.

If you want ANY chance of your old lady coming back, you've got to read that stuff, implement and re-read when you have any questions.

I make a schedule every week for S. It's so much easier that way. And as for what Sandi says about being soft, it is 1000% true. They stepped out because you got weak. They're not going to look at you any differently until you respect yourself enough to stop letting her get away with stuff. I was in the same boat. My W is freaking out because I keep enforcing boundaries.

First things first. Always watch the way she speaks to you. Always. Whether it's something nasty, like calling you a loser, or it's something more subtle. You've gotta stand up for yourself. Just tell her you don't appreciate it, and keep up with it. If you don't keep up with it, it's like you never did it in the first place.