New here and separated

[Coly23]

Thanks AndrewP, that makes perfect sense to me. I so desperately want to reconcile with my H also and although he has made some indication that he might too, he makes no effort whatsoever. I feel like I am in limbo waiting for him to make the first move. He says he doesn't want us to put any timelines on it but I don't know what that means if he isn't actually doing anything. I understand that you can't put a deadline on falling back in love but surely you need to actively do something!!

The fence around the hole sounds like a good idea....