Hi there, Sparrow Homme. I'm just doing a quick drive by because it's almost 3 am in my neck of the woods, and I really need to hit the hay.

It's time to cut yourself a whole lot of slack, my friend. You took a long walk through hel1, and you came out a bit damaged, as we all are, and then you kept walking and you came out feeling indifferent. What could possibly be wrong with that? It's how you feel, therefore it is completely normal. It may last, or it may not, but it is an emotionally safe state for right now, and that it a very good thing. Don't over-analyze things and turn it into yet another weapon to beat yourself up with.

It is what it is. It is a form of self-protection as far as I can see, and it will last until you are ready to process things further. Enjoy it for as long as it lasts. Maybe it will be permanent, but more likely it will come and go. Some days everything will roll off you like water off a duck's back, and other days.... well, not so much.

Enjoy the neutral days, weeks, or even months. I suspect that they too shall pass.


H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16