New and going through a Hybrid Seperation

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cbtdad - Thank you very much for sharing me your story. In my specific sitch, there is as I believe no current OM; however, based on my observations I think my W is interested to possibly test the waters. What may hinder her from doing this is her value system: she's married, living in the M house, has kids, and a pretty conservative W, plus very busy w/her new job.

This sounds alot like my W. I thought no way there could be OM as she always home and in bed by 8.30pm. She makes me breakfast for work, she has a strong value system. Boy I was wrong. Dont meant to scare you but just warning that you might be in LBS fog.

In fact last week, she bought me a shirt from her girl's weekend...she did tell me if was a cheap shirt and wanted to give me a gift, like a nice roommate would do. The flip side is that, wherever possible she has puts up walls - restricted me from her FB feed, told me not to call her honey, will not change in front of me, talks to me a very formalize basis.... Knowing my wife, this is how she tries to move on, by doing and taking actual steps to demonstrate her resolve.

Oh man this sounded alot like my W. This was her way of saying shes completely checked out and is just waiting for me to be on the same page. She doesnt want the guilt of breaking you guys up hence why she hasnt done anything. Shes waiting for you to give up. She doesnt want to do any of the work or hard stuff cause that will make her the bad guy.