10 Years Later - From a DB'er

[DonH]

"Would it help to let go a little and look around you more? There's something out there for you but if you look too hard for it you may look in the places where it's not."

Maybell, I'm not sure I fully understood everything you were saying but I totally understand what you're saying at the end and quoted above. That's the thing though - that's what I did pretty much from 2006-2012. During that time I dated a little, had one 6 month R but that was it. After the second R from the end of 2012 to summer 2013 afterwards I knew it was time and I wanted more. I did the same as I did previously (just let it all come to me and happen) but NOTHING. It was then everyone suggested that I needed to "put myself out there" or "try online dating" or "you need to try a little harder" or even "You may need to lower your standards a bit" I figured they may be right so I started trying harder, accepting more people, etc. I also did some of the GAL and personal things. The net result is what I've been describing here and is what has now been causing me this angst. The harder I try the worse I feel and honesty the results are the same.

- So then do I just leave it up to luck or to fate?

- Have I changed over how I was in earlier life? Is that's what the problem is?

- Is it my age bracket now? I was married at 38 so most of my previous "success" was from about 20-35. Is that part of it - women post D in their 40s and 50s are not like those I dated in their 20s and 30s? It seemed those in their 20s and 30s are much more interested in dating - those in later life, not so much.

I have so much to give. I have the time and the money to not only date but travel, etc. And I do those things, I really do - planning another trip for October right now. I'm booked tonight, tomorrow, Monday, Wednesday and Friday of next week so far. But it's just getting really old doing all of it by myself.