New and going through a Hybrid Seperation

[cbtdad]

What got my W back to consider the marriage was long consistent changes over a period of time. But before she would reconcile she needed to come out of the "fog" of her A and the OM needed to be out of the picture.
To me there is a huge difference between a situation with AP versus a situation without one.
If there is an OM involved then you have to do things completely different in my opinion. Of course unless you have concrete evidence there is no way to really know for sure, but most of the time there is an OM involved
For me I noticed my W became interested when I truly detached. I think when that happens is when they notice. It's not something you can fake. It takes time to detach and will not happen over night. You detach by GAL activities and focusing on yourself and your happiness.
I reconciled to soon in my situation and made it too easy for W to return to marriage.
That's why this time around I am taking the long road and listening to the veterans who say it can take upwards of 3 years to fully reconcile.
I can't control anything by actions and how I handle things
There are plenty of times that I want to just give up and move out.
The problem is I almost certain if I did she would come running back and give me all the attention I'm looking for and then I would cave in and stop the progress on myself.
So it's the long road for me this time
But I can't control the outcome. Either way I know I will be a better man and father
And that is my goal