Albac broken but pushing forward

[albac]

Thanks Sandi, yes it will be tough and I need to be sure but I have spent so much time thinking about all this, yes I have a lot to lose but chances are by continuing on the paths am on now I am going to lose her anyway. Ian not trying to rush to a D and have our marriage over. On a side note she has never said the word divorce to me at any point I think she believes being separated and divorced are exactly the same thing.

To be clear she doesn't see the fact that she is seeing someone else as any sort of betrayal or having done anything wrong. She thought I was "happy" being friends and was surprised I was upset when she told me about OM.

I work shift work so my days off change every single week so at this point we have to discuss who has D which days every single week. Far from ideal I also take D quite often so W can work