cbtdad - Thanks for reading my sitch and giving me your advice. I read yours and also found some similarities. I am absolutely committed to make changes for me and ultimately those changes will improve my relationship my kids and if god willing my kids.
I am going to get that book as you suggested and see where I can learn and improve. I'm also going to IC and looking for a good support group.
I like to ask, in your first time, when your wife "moved on" what was it that got her back to R the MR?
I'm in an in-house separation with my W, and I know its tough for her as it is for me. But, I got to do the work and 180 and GAL. What my DG coach is suggesting, because of my past behavior is do not go dark, because she will think its again one of my anger episodes.
One day at a time...that's all have. Thanks again for the great suggestions.
