She is still at it. I think I need to have a serious talk about boundaries and what is and isn't ok.
Can you state to us what boundaries you want to discuss with her?
Your W is getting the best of both worlds. You see it, don't you?
The way your W keeps you connected emotionally is by sending you photos and messages thoughout the day, or on a daily bases. It is, also, a means of control on her end. She should not come over to hang out with you. She should not think she can turn to you when she has nothing better to do or her boyfriend is busy. You have played second fiddle to the OM since the get-go.......you just didn't suspect it.
I doubt she is in some type of MLC. The WW and MLC W have very similar behavior. Your W has new friends, and she wants to experience the fun single life. However, she is trying to keep one foot in the M, which is not respectful of you.
IMHO, you need to act as if she is a very nosy neighbor who is trying to find out your business. When she removed herself from the M, she removed her rights to know what all you do. Learn to have very vague answers.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
