Lost at the moment (2)

[sandi2]

While she is still in contact with OM, which won't go away anytimne soon as they work at the same place, she has cut back significantly on texting and phone calls. She has also been very open about any contact that they have had (of course taking her word for it for the time being, trying not to snoop as I can access the backup files from her phone including text messages). But that being said, for a couple of days at least it seems to be a bit of progress in the right direction.

By cutting back on her phone activity, do you mean to the OM?

You know, don't you, that ending her A doesn't stand a chance as long as she is working with him. No matter how open she seems to be about all the contact.......it just won't work. Coconut's situation proved that point. He watched his W's activity carefully, and she "appeared" to be working at reconciling........but she did not leave the place that brought her and OM together. The two AP's cannot continue staying at the same site, or see each other's picture, cars, or anything.

I think the H is fighting a losing battle as long as he tries to convince himself that a little progress has been made here & there, and at the same time knows contact between the AP's is still being made.

So interesting development. WW tells me last night that she and the OM have agreed that they can't proceed with the A and that if they are going to have a relationship, they need to do it right.

I asked her when she plans on filing for D, to which she responded I'm not planning on filing, she's loosing her feelings for the OM and wants to figure us out.

Gee, what arrogance! That was her throwing bread crumbs in your face. The very idea that she just assumed you would want left-overs from her A.............and yet, that is the mindset of a WW. I had the same mindset, and thought if things didn't work out between me and my OM, I would simply return home where my H would be waiting with open arms. Well guess what? He informed me that if I ever left.....there would be no coming back.......and, there would be no buddy-buddy system (remaining friends). Man, that hit me like a ton of bricks!