WHs do come back--Piecing--acceptance & time

[LiM]

Hi Lim,
When they do come back, it is with very mixed emotion. For me it was shock, relief, reconnecting, very quickly followed by anger, fear, and resentment. Then I cycled around several 1000 times. Sometimes over the course of several weeks and other times all in a day.
Blu

Thanks for replying Blu and sorry for hijacking your thread a little. What you said above is EXACTLY what I've been struggling with so its helpful to know its normal. I hate the thought that I will probably, like you, still be struggling with the same thing a year from now. Hopefully not as much as I am now.
The month of July was really hard for me. I'm doing a little better now. I've been working on detaching and not allowing myself to be carried up and down on the rollercoaster by things she says or does. I have to keep reminding myself that she is still not in her right mind. Its clear by some of the things she says and does that she has a long ways to go to make peace and make amends for what happened. My W IS trying; she is committed, she does love me, she is remorseful, she does want to stay M. But things are still night right in her head. I guess my choice is to be patient and supportive while continuing to work on my LiM issues or I can leave. While staying is painful, I don't think leaving is the right answer.
Deep breaths. Give it to God.