Hi uphill, welcome back. I wrote a long post to you yesterday but lost it.

I had 2 initial thoughts about your recent interactions.

1. I did not like the manner or wording from your W. It! As all about her IMO. I won't develope on that as you have the excellent sandi already posting. But some interactions are hard and none of us are super at all interactions. So it not being perfect is not really important. She is only human. Her sincerity or not will become apparent.

2. Saturdays chat is just that. You don't need to decide anything nnow or even say anything.You are in a good place. You do not need her so the onus is on her to win you back. Keep your cards close to your chest until you ate ready to play them.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together