Hey Fogg, rich4j,

I get what you are saying about she thinks she is single. Its just my heart does not want to believe it. I get that she has moved on but my heart does not believe it. And some where deep inside me I know she must have been with another man by now, but my heart does not want to believe it.

It our ten year anniversary this year. Such a momentous occasion that will be overshadowed by hart break and despair.

My S$ was giving me hi fives last night and on the tenth one he asked where my ring was. I ask him what he said. He repeated where is your ring, don't you get one when you are married.

I did not answer him.

Is the answer there though, right in my face, I am not married, thus I do not have my ring?

But I am married (well separated) and my ring is at home in a drawer.

I had no answer for him. What can I say to a four year old.


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016