I agree. I'm not doing it as something to be "optimistic" I'm doing it so if it ever were to happen I wouldn't be blindly fumbling around to figure out my conditions while trying to deal with the emotions of the situation. I feel like knowing I have a "plan" so to say would be something for me to feel more in control of myself and my reaction. It doesn't really have anything to do with optimism.
I'm just somebody who likes to have at least some sort of idea of what I would do in ANY situation. It helps me feel less anxiety and helps me remain calm and rational in the face of emotional situations.
If that makes sense
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16