wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[Raul]

Update:
I'm so confused. I know when I am doing NC, it helps me clear my mind.
W came over this morning to brush our daughters' hair. As you know, I get like a puppy each time I see her. I try so hard to keep my composure. But I feel like a kid in a candy store.

W doesn't want to talk, but I do notice that when she does, I hear keywords as to why she is angry. She called me a hoarder. Because the garage has many electronic, gadget, computer parts and alot of old files. She has been telling me for 3 years to clean it out. I know it still bothers her. She brought it up this morning. But now she says it doesn't matter anymore. Recently, I hired a junk haul company and hauled off most of the big junk. So now it's only mostly small boxes. But she says it's too late.

She told me that it is too late and she is filing for divorce next month. She said it doesn't matter if I am great man that loves her deeply, if we own a home, that we have two beautiful daughters or 14 years of marriage. The problem she says is, SHE DOES NOT LOVE ME ANYMORE. So I responded, well of course not if you are involved with another man. Now here is where I am so confuse. She tells me that the other person does not matter. She fell out of love and she would have divorced me even if there was no other man. She said there is a hole in her and that being with me I don't make her feel complete. She also thinks that I am blabbing bad things about her to other people like her family. I told her that I have not talked to my family or hers for almost 2 months. Just keeping to myself. So I believe someone is telling her things. I'm saying anything bad about her. Anyone would tell you that I have her in a pedestal and say how wonderful she is.

I'm so confuse. So did she leave me because she does not love me or did she leave me because she is with another man? Or is it both? She tells me that it is because she does not love me. She said it is not because of another man. I strongly feel she will be filing for divorce soon.