Sara, thank you for your kind words and hug, I can feel it through your words.

I'm sure the anger will come back. Right now it's all nausea, stomach ache and sadness.

It was a very typical experience with WH this morning. He called me to have me e-mail him the receipt that he has to give the movers. I e-mailed it to him a week ago together with very clear instructions for everything, but he couldn't find it now.

I talked to him again a few minutes before the movers were to arrive and told him they were almost there. He was still on his way, stressed out because he couldn't find the key for the storage. He used it last week. He was frustrated and upset that the movers would be on time, and that he would have to cut the lock.

I'm absolutely not always on top of everything myself, and can be forgetful and frazzled, but WH is really extreme. He says 'it will only take 5 minutes' and 'I'll get that ready before I leave tomorrow morning' - which I feel are recipes for disaster. He feels I am so 'controlling' because I like to prepare for stuff. This was one of the frequent sources of conflict between us, because he actually *chooses* to live like this and be unprepared. I used to let him do what he wanted with his own appointments, and just helped him find stuff, but when it was something that involved us both, I was 'controlling' and chose to prepare.

Nothing has changed...

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17